My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years, I’m the same age as you, and it just feels like there’s no romance anymore. Do you feel the same way with your boyfriend? or what do you do to keep the romance alive?

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years, I'm the same age as you, and it just feels like there's no romance anymore. Do you feel the same way with your boyfriend? or what do you do to keep the romance alive?

I usually try to keep most my private life off Tumblr nowadays, but I figured I’d answer this one since I need a break from all this skull drawing.

My boyfriend and I have also been together for almost five years. Obviously when you spend that much time together, things can become relatively routine. As much as I love cuddling up in a blanket nest and watching zombie movies with my man while bingeing on Flamin’ Hot Cheetos Fries, night after night of this can start to diminish the romance.

I’m a very low maintenance girlfriend, so I don’t require a lot of “romancing” in the dinner-movie-flowers-longwalksonthebeach sense of the word. Take me out for carne asada fries and give me a long kiss at the end of the night and I’m happy. But what most keeps the romance alive in our relationship is our ability to communicate. I can’t emphasize enough how important communication is to the success of any relationship. Whenever things feel a bit off in mine and Dave’s relationship, we go out to our favorite coffee shop or go on a long drive and talk the whole thing out. Being able to fully confide in the other person and feel entirely understood is probably the most romantic part about our relationship.

Not going on regular dates all the time, or not feeling lovey-dovey butterflies around each other every time you touch hands, or not finding his quirks as cute as you used to are all perfectly normal symptoms of being with someone for so long. Those can usually be pretty easily cured. But if after time and time again you find it absolutely impossible to communicate with each other, I usually see that as the kiss of death for any relationship.

So to sum up that rabbit hole of an answer: We keep the romance alive by communicating openly about how we’re both feeling, what we both think is missing, and how we both can contribute to making it better. Then we both put those plans into action. And usually after that, we fall madly in love with each other again, until a few months later we realize we’ve spent every night staying in watching Netflix and need to start the process over again to reignite the flame. Relationships will never be perfect, but when you’ve found the right person, getting through the downs is just as good as enjoying the ups together.

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