Anonymous asked: You've been dating your boyfriend for 7 years - what is the best advice you could give to other young couples? I hope this isn't too invasive of a question, I just really admire you as well as the ability to keep a relationship strong for that long! :)
5 years actually. 7 is just how long we’ll have been together by the time we finally get married. :)
I sort of touched on this in another response (that you can read here), but I can’t emphasize enough how important communication is to the success of any relationship. And I don’t just mean talking to each other. I think true communication is being able to fully express your thoughts and feelings while also taking into account the other person’s thoughts and feelings. Dave and I communicate openly, honestly, and selflessly about everything. We support each other and encourage one another to reach our full potentials. We rarely bicker and we never fight for no reason. We pick our battles wisely and we fight for each other, not against each other. We make it a point to learn and grow from each speed bump we face in our relationship, so either they don’t reoccur in the future or we know how to handle them next time. (More on our “fighting” style, read here.) We laugh together a lot too and we’re pretty easily entertained by each other, so that always helps in making a relationship work, haha. ;)
In all honesty though, the only reason my relationship with Dave works is because of God. God very blatantly put Dave in my life (which is actually a pretty funny story) after ending an extremely unhealthy relationship. God also very obviously helped me learn and grow from my mistakes and shaped me into a person that could have a healthy relationship. And He continues to be the soil our relationship is rooted in and thus nourished by.